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one of the biggest levers in fact the single biggest predictor of your health outcomes in life are the number of close connections that you have it it’s more than quitting smoking it’s more than going to the gym it’s more than stopping drinking 50% of men say that they are not looking for a relationship when they say aren’t looking for a relationship do they mean I’m not looking for a woman or I’m not looking for commitment not actively pursuing any kind of interaction with women oh wow where did we go wrong and how do we go right okay so 50.1% of women for the first time in history uh are mothers there are more childless women at 30 than there are women with children right so for almost all of human history more women had kids under the age of 30 than over and now it’s switched there’s a study from Morgan Stanley that says by 2040 45% of 25 to 45 year old women will be single and childless wow if online dating was creating this perfect facilitation for relationships to start how are we ending up with all of these outcomes that’s a question hey guys this is your girl Melanie and I came across this clip on Diary of a CEO um he’s interviewing Chris Williamson Chris Williamson does a really has a wonderful Channel he talks about a variety of of topics but one of the things he he always hammers home on and and and and it’s a high of his channel is about dating relationships marriage women and really getting to this the statistics of things and really trying to understand not just throwing out talking points but speaking to experts studying the data and understanding what’s really going out going on out here we all feel the effects of it you guys feel the effects especially in the dating market and how women are but it’s it’s another thing to feel the effects and then get to the root the root cause why now one of the things he asked was like you know if it was it dating apps were supposed to improve this and why are things going this way and a lot of times and I’ve been guilty of this where I will blame dating apps and say you know because women are doing this and doing that and they only want the top really five 10% of men that are on dating apps they want a a chat a guy who was above them in looks and usually status and money on their or they want a guy who you know he looks good and he can he can perform in the bedroom or they presume he can and so they flock to towards those guys and those are the those are the guys that you see women on Tik Tok crying about and and and everything’s wrong and men don’t want to commit and what’s wrong with you men where are all the good men left where the rest of you guys the 90% of that are not the top 10 chats are like we’re right here where we’ve always been and where you’ve always ignored us and so the root cause of this though in my opinion and just the research that I’ve done is not just the dating apps it’s not just you know dating those are are all symptoms of the root which is the root disease which is modern feminism and modern feminism doesn’t hold women accountable for anything women are always right women are good um when women have been oppressed women are treated unequally women are treated unfair uh they are oppressed by misogyny the patriarchy of the past has you know clipped our wings and we don’t have as much opportunity out here and also feminism promotes this idea of of um equality of outcome they don’t want equal opportunity they want equality of outcome why is that important because when they talk about the patriarch and they talk about this oppression and they talk about all the things men have done in society and especially in the past they for them to get now they this is what it is they don’t want just having the opportunity they don’t want equal rights with men they don’t want equal opportunity which women do have now they want to make right all the wrongs of the past all the they want to make up time on what they did didn’t get or what they perceived they didn’t get and now they want to take their rightful place in these cushy jobs and in society and just in every fabric of life and it’s not enough to be equal now they must because they got to make good they’ve got to you’ve got to push women up even higher and push men lower so that is how you’re going to balance out the scale so that women now can get equal outcomes equality of outcome and that mindset has warped women especially in dating in relationships that I deserve the best I can get the best sure dating apps and all these things made it so top 10 chats top 10% perceived chats can you know have more access to women and women from you know the guy may be a 910 but the woman can be a four and like it’s a slow night he just wants to you know get it in and so now these men have more access to these women and these women because those men choose them for a sexual encounter or talk to them or swipe right on them they actually believe that is now their their level their status so they see any man below that is not good enough so now this is that that’s that same mindset with feminism is you know I I get the best I I get I can it doesn’t matter all these other men I want the the the top position I want to go to the top and I want to explain it better in another video I’m just kind of get do this quickly but hopefully you get an idea of what I mean about that what’s wrong with the outcomes what do you mean why should people care about being single all the stats you’ve just said um I could look at them and say they’re just sort of objectively neutral like there’s no adverse consequence to society or the world it’s fine that people aren’t having kids it’s fine that people are aren’t having sex I’m playing devil’s advocate here but like what what is the what is the negative consequence of all of those outcomes that you’ve described in your view there are people for whom a life without a part partner is the right choice that’s absolutely something that I’m prepared to accept but it’s not most people it’s one of the biggest levers in fact the single biggest predictor of your health outcomes in life are the number of close connections that you have it’s the number of friends it’s more than quitting smoking it’s more than going to the gym it’s more than stopping drinking it’s the number of close friends that you’ve got and a relationship is a big close friend Robin Dunbar says that in order to get into a relationship you have to sacrifice two friendships because you can have around about five very close friends if you want to get into a relationship you need to get rid of two of them because there is a minimum time investment so people that are in relationships have better health outcomes they have onset of dementia later they have alheim uh problems later on in life uh they are less lonely that seems pretty uncontroversial and yet both sides of the aisle both men and women are retreating from relationships and finding ways that they can uh justify this uh you know uh Boss culture and sort of the leanin um women’s mentality or men going their own way and incel culture and the black pill for guys are both ways that each sex is trying to deal with the challenges that are coming out of the mating Market I want to say though you cannot equate what men are doing and women are doing absolutely not men are using l I facts how they’ve been treated how Society sees them this very feminist Society we have in the west they’re seeing how women behave women are not wanting to have relationships with the average man or even above average men at this point and even men who are high value I I have clients and in conversations all the time they are struggling okay to actually find a woman who is worthy to be a wife and this is where you see men are finding solutions they are finding like it’s better for me to be alone it is better for me to go my own way because well I’m not going to get any results out there and it’s not because they have all these shortcomings but just you know if that guy is a plumber and not working some high power job that makes you know that even if let’s say he’s a plumber and there’s another guy who works a office job the plumber may make more money but because he’s a plumber and women hear that they’re automatically will be turned off because it’s a blue collar job not really understanding anything about it and they would ra so there’s a lot of men just on what they do their income level even if they make good money all of that they are women won’t even give them opportunity they’re not interested in these men so men have decided okay I’m going to go my own way and then also with media and social media it is constantly attacking men who they are their character what they believe what they feel and anything a man wants or says it it they can point back to its Messi and the patriarchy or something that puts them down so what is the point they they have to go their own way they don’t have another option women on the other hand have options they have men in their DMS they have men that match with them they have men that are interested in them but they do not want those men they want the top chats remember women are supposed to have the best of the best all women are tens all women deserve love they don’t say all men are tens they don’t say all men deserve love but you you see the difference there women they turn away from dating when relationships with the men they want are not working out when no one is wanting a relationship with them when they can’t get the top Chad they would rather be alone then settle not settle for a lesser man that they’re talking about they’re talking about they want to settle they don’t want to settle for a man who doesn’t meet XYZ and a thousand other things and then you have even things like the ick oh he put on a coat and was cold G oh he blew his nose ooh oh he ate a popsicle oh like those are the things that women are are removing themselves from the dating market for they’re completely two different things and so we’ve got to make that clear both sexes are saying I don’t want to be a part of this anymore I’m finding it so painful and difficult to be in this world that I’m just going to cast off any of it altogether and then retroactively come up with a lot of explanations that can justify why they didn’t need to be in a relationship in any case and for some people that’s true but for most people that’s not dating apps are clearly not you know as you say in your own words and previously aren’t the only causal Factor so my question to you is where did we go wrong and how do we go right okay so I think challenges in The Mating Market are coming from many directions one of the main ones that will be pertinent to the people that are listening is the increase in female achievement in education and employment now about 50 years ago when Title 9 came in there was a 13 percentage Point swing in favor of men to women in universities there were significantly more men than women what’s title n it was an affirmative action policy that helped to get more women into higher education 50 years later 2023 it’s a 15 percentage Point swing between men and women in University in the other direction there are two women for every one man at a 4-year us college degree round about by 2030 women on average between the ages of 21 and 29 earn 1,111 more than their male counterparts women are roughly twice as likely as men to say that they will value Financial prospects in a partner about 78% of women say that a stable job is something that is important for a partner to have whereas around about only sort of 45% of men say the same thing for a man to increase his uh rating on a 10o scale by two points he requires around about a tenfold uh increase in his salary for a woman to achieve the same two-point Improvement on a 10-point scale her salary would need to increase by 10,000 times my point being that women are they are concerned about a partner’s socioeconomic status significantly more than men are now you can start to see that if you have a world in which women are attending University at high rates they are achieving uh more success in employment at least in that sort of 21 to 29 range which is when most people are perhaps looking for potential partners and yet the socioeconomic status of a partner to a woman is a big determinant of their level of Attraction you can start to see how this imbalance could cause a problem similarly when we talk about education a man with a master’s degree on Tinder gets 90% more right swiped than a man with a bachelor’s degree so for all of the guys that are considering going and getting a master’s degree even if you think it’s going to be useless at least accept the fact that you get 90% more right swipes for the rest of your life or just lie about your Masters I don’t know all of this roll together describes something called hypergamy which is the female tendency to date up and across on average women want to date a man who is as educated or as employed as they are now in a world in which quite rightly women have finally been able to achieve parity in education and employment and status and have Independence and not be financially reliant on their partner all the rest of it that’s great for them but it it does cause some challenges for their dating and this is what I’ve called the tall girl problem so everybody knows what it’s like to have a girl friend who is six foot without heels go if you you want to wear heels you’re looking at professional athletes because on average women want to date a man who is at least as tall or a little bit taller than they are so as women rise up through their own competence hierarchy in education and employment they further shorten down the potential pool of eligible men that are as educated or more educated and as employed or more employed than they are this is a challenge this is just a straightup imbalance right what this causes is a very large group of men toward the bottom of this distribution to be essentially invisible to women it causes a very large number of women and increasing cohort to compete for an increasingly small group of Turbo Chad super performers at the top these guys the super high value guys have a wealth of options so they are commitment averse why would they decide to sit down with one girl for the rest of time when they have this wealth of options which can cause them to uh use and discard many of these women which then causes most of these women to resent men overall and then the guys that were forgotten at the bottom that say well hang on a second I didn’t use and discard you I haven’t even been seen by you no no all men are whatever it might be right that they are users and abusers that we don’t need them that where all of the Good Men at etc etc there’s a big group of men that feel like they are good men that are invisible there’s a big portion of women who have finally managed to achieve educational and employment Independence that are chasing after a smaller group of guys these guys are commitment of verse I don’t think it’s necessarily good for them either it’s the child with the ice cream right like guys being able to keep it in their pants when there’s a lot of options on the table is going to be difficult for them too this is one of the main drivers this uh tall girl problem is a massive change I think in uh the dating Dynamics guys I you know I I normally interrupt but that clip was so good I wanted to you know um just really have him flesh that out and I like the the analogy of it being the tall girl problem so they they’re they have to have someone as a woman you want someone above you the average woman this is what they have been deceived into believing so this is why you have these disp disproportionate I guess um economics within the dating Market but he didn’t even get to guys being ATT like he didn’t even get to the physical part I know we talked about tall girl but he wasn’t talking about just the education that was and and money that’s one facet those are two facets the next one would be and probably the most important are looks looks is he men who are under six feet they get filtered out women won’t even consider and then once they’re in the above six feet oh this guy’s 65 compared to 61 so the even the guys who are above 6 feet they are getting you know ranked based on how tall they are how fit they are how you know that smile will that man be good armed candy I feel like women are shopping when they go on these dating apps it’s really a fantasy they are trying to pull they’re not looking for a husband they may say that they may say they want a man in relationship but really no they want their fantasy fulfilled it’s like I honestly think of the dating apps now and how women behave it’s almost like the strip club for women like they want they they go after looks that fantasy but if men go to a strip club they know this is entertainment is not you know you’re not looking for your wife you you don’t find you know dating someone like that there’s all kinds of problems and that’s not really wife material that’s not somebody you want to be the mother of your child but women do not think that they think the fantasy can be real and when he talked about the how the policies on these campuses women will are so proud we have more degrees and we’re doing this and we’re making more but they don’t understand the governmental policies the UN iversity policies that have allowed them to do that and have pushed men to the corner so it’s not because this through their Merit again it’s not about equality it’s about making good on what was in the past ignoring men forgetting men shutting them down and raising women up and so now we have all these women been raised up and they thought they were be so happy because now we’re above men and we’re we’re smashing the patriarchy but guess what you’re lonely you’re not able to get a man e and even let’s say a woman like that was dating down what she considers dating down the type of mentality that comes with it then we haven’t even gotten into body count um where women are saying my body my choice when it comes to this and it’s you know I should be able to sleep with whoever I want and still get a husband and a man should still want to wife me up and for me to be the mother of his child so women they they have this thing where they they live in a delusional place where they don’t consider men they don’t care about men they don’t care what they feel it’s all about their fantasy I can do what I want live how I want say what I want treat men the way I want and I will still get my outcome because if that girl again they want equality of outcome if this girl got it and that girl got it usually celebrities that person in it I can do it too because we’re all beautiful all women are the same all women deserve the best all women deserve love so these so it all comes together why I talk about feminism because the policies you see how I went on the Rabbit Trail but it goes deeper it starts with the policies it starts with feminism and the lies and the destructions that that has caused in every fabric of life especially in the west it obviously begs a question Chris which is if everything you’ve said is objectively correct and spot on and supported by the data then how does if I make Chris Williamson the prime minister or president of the world and I say your first job is to fix this challenge what do you do the first thing that you don’t do is roll back women’s education and employment and this is one of the problems with this discussion right the things that I’ve just said there are born out in pure research data Morgan Stanley results like these are incontrovertible facts right they are there and any girl that is listening who earns more than 50,000 a year and has got a Masters or above level education and is toward their late 30s or in the uh toward their late 20s or in their 30s knows this problem you know the fact that you are struggling to find a man that you feel is eligible for you right that needs to be out there the problem that happens around this discourse is that it posits men and women as adversaries and competitors of each other right as enemies this means that that worthwhile compassion which is needed to both women and men if you’re a woman who has gone through your education you’ve dedicated yourself to achieving a degree you know your mother’s generation wasn’t able to achieve this and you’re the first person that’s maybe gone to UNI or got a Bachelors or got a masters I’ve got a PhD and then you spend some time in a career grinding away and you now earn 150 Grand a year you think right I’m 31 I’d love to settle down this would be amazing for me where are all of the men at I hang on a second and what you realize is not only now are you competing with all of the other increasing cohort of women that are high Achievers with status employment and education but you’re also competing with a 21-year-old Barista who still lives at home with her parents for this small cohort of guys that requires sympathy for women okay that absolutely not absolutely not I have zero sympathy and the reason why because women nowadays they don’t have sympathy for men they’re they don’t have sympathy for the man who’s the Barista they don’t have sympathy for anyone else they don’t have sympathy when they’re choosing Chad over the men who you know putting men in the friend zone having male orbiters and and they know they’re not serious about men and they go on foodie dates and this is women of all education levels and and and um and uh job and women who have different jobs different hierarchies within the uh socioeconomic class so the and they have men have been speaking about this men have been telling women look at my good friend Kevin Samuels when he was cancelled men aren’t cancelling women women are cancelling men when they speak up on these things and try to educate women and try to tell them hey don’t you don’t have to get hurt by Sleeping with all these different men and Chads and all that you don’t you shouldn’t just pursue your degree to the and and neglect all the other areas of life they they they tell women stop being masculine stop trying to take on masculine traits and competing with men men are not competing comp in with women they they’re not they’re not thinking about women women are competing with wom with uh men women are the ones that are causing all the animosity in the dating world and then the media social media corporations Hollywood every universities everything backs them up it is really a David and Goliath story except for in this time the men are David but this this is not turning out where they’re going to have Victory they don’t have any support and so okay they a lot of women know what they should be doing a lot of women know these things but they rebel against it because what feminism tells them that they are better than men not just like a man better than a man saying they don’t need a man so I I I have to Counterpoint that absolutely not I mean it it’s again feeling sorry for women women are like infants you know it’s all this compassion for women and poor her and oh poor women the same is not getting again I come from a standpoint if you I come from a standpoint of equality if you want equality then and and you’re better than a man than a man like you guys tell men man up nobody’s feeling sorry for you you made that choice live with it and that is what needs to be said we’ve got to stop holding their hands and Kumbaya and feeling sorry for them because it keeps this foolishness up and then they come up with Solutions oh now we need to talk about it and the men and it need to improve all the solutions are men need to improve not that they need to change but that men once again there’s more work for men to do while they’re silenced and have no support is not a good position for women to be in at the same time this huge cohort of sexless men 30% of men haven’t had sex in the last year 50% of men say that they are not looking for a relationship you are a man you have been through your 20s you know the power of the male sex drive between the ages of 18 and 30 can you imagine getting yourself into a situation where you say I’m not bothered about pursuing women wow that is an unbelievably extreme statement for men to make and their self-identifying is this in Pew research data this isn’t on incel forums this is Pew research 50% of men aren’t looking for a relationship when they say aren’t looking for a relationship do they mean I’m not looking for a woman or I’m not looking for commitment not actively pursuing any kind of interaction with women oh casual included m what 50% and again to this I say yeah men have they read the writing on the wall they know what they’ve experienced since the time they were children they are not valued women don’t value them men men are the ones who have more chassity men are the ones wanting marriage and tradition women out here want to run the streets run high body count they incur trauma that they CA upon themselves chasing these top guys they don’t get into relationship they label all the men even the men who are not in relationships um and that number also 18 to 30 the percentage of young men who are virgins between 18 to 30 it is tripled okay the numbers and I I should do a video with the data and with the young what do you think the numbers of women from 18 to 30 who are virgins what do you think the percentage of women from 18-30 the number of Partners they’ve had versus the number men have had so you see how feminism have it’s destroyed itself it’s destroyed the very people that they said that they want to help while men have stayed the same men are are are standing on on what they believe and they’re not going to be moved just because women want to cry about this now they’ve made their bed and they they want them to lie in it and this this is where these same women will say these passport Bros and they want to go and find women yes they want to find feminine traditional women women who are not trying to compete with them women who have not been corrupted by the disease of modern feminism and you dare speak against it girl bye anyway guys that’s the end of this video make sure you uh subscribe leave a comment below and let me know what you think about these type of discussions I would love to read you guys insight and yeah I’ll see you in the next one bye …