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I believe the biggest Flex in life is your first marriage being your only marriage not a career not a house not a car but this commitment to a person for a huge portion of your life that’s the flex truly it is can you think of a couple that you know personally that have been together for 10 plus years I think of old people personally I think of people that have been together before social media was ever even a thing why is it so rare because it would make our lives easier if we were all in a relationship the world doesn’t want us to be in relationships no the world wants us to be lonely and sad unhappy miserable and I mean it’s working for a lot of people anyone who’s ever been in a divorce anyone who’s been broken up with or you know their relationship isn’t a thing anymore you know those people are not happy per se are they genuinely happy with their lives cuz it’s rare it’s rare to find someone you truly love and to not break that to go against the world when they say oh it’s us against the world that’s exactly what they mean the world is going to challenge you the world is going to challenge your love so when I say the biggest Flex is truly getting married and staying married with this person it is because even our own parents question our relationships our own parents can’t commit it’s sad and it’s getting worse and worse as the generations get older you know being in my 20s it’s pretty evident to me that a lot of people just want to be single and a single person is living a harder life than two people in a relationship that’s just facts it’s the truth and the world would rather have a bunch of single people roaming around than two people committed to each other making their lives easier more beautiful more full of opportunities you know more perspective to share social media has really ruined relationships it has ruined potential relationships it’s ruined the idea of relation relationships the fact that we can scroll through a dating app or scroll through a social media profile and dictate if this person is good for us that is it’s so below us as a human human connections aren’t supposed to be made on a on a website you know so naturally the world is just making us gravitate toward our phone screens instead of another person I want to get married and I want to be married with this person for the rest of my life that’s the point that’s the point I don’t think I know anyone that would want to just get married to just get married you know you want to get married to be committed and to love this person for the rest of your life to make both of your lives easier to flourish together relationships are not perfect okay I want to be very clear with this the world scares us from being in relationships because the world loves to expose what could happen What like you don’t know about relationships social media is really good at exposing gender roles relationship Dynamics you know options that we have with other people and other situations we are exposed to much to feel like relationships need to be perfect they don’t they’re not relationships are never perfect ever there’s always going to be Pros cons UPS Downs there’s all these inet and that’s the point of it being a flex that’s the point because nobody nowadays wants to put the work into a relationship nobody nowadays wants to put the work in themselves for a relationship that’s the facts because the world is deteriorating our individualities which is not making us want to be with another person when we’re on social media now mind you I haven’t been on Instagram I have not been on Instagram in days but when I go when I did scroll on my Instagram there was so many so many different profiles of women that just put down the ideal relationships like the constant put down of the word relationships is messing with young minds the divorce rate for marriage is going to rise it’s already so high it’s just getting worse people my age and younger are Overexposed to what a relationship even is they have no idea what it takes to be in a relationship if you have been exposed to a divorced family you know that it’s a choice to be with someone it’s a choice and it’s always the people that have been through a divorce it’s always the people that have been through a relationship but aren’t still in one that have a lot to say that think they know what they’re talking about no don’t ever don’t ever listen to someone that has been through a divorce cuz that person gave up that person gave up on the other person no matter what you know there’s always different situations there’s always a you know I’m not going to bash anyone for getting a divorce but that’s a choice that is a mindful choice to give up on someone don’t ever listen to someone who has been through a divorce even if it’s your own parents especially if it’s your own parents because they’re part of this world they’re part of this cruel world and the only person that would ever want you to truly be happy is another person you choose another person you find two people that choose each other in this world that’s unconditional that’s unconditional love it’s a choice to love someone truly it is and in this World we’re choosing to love ourselves and that’s so sad it’s so sad to see you know I would rather walk around this world and see you know couples holding hands I don’t see it I see older people I see older couples maybe 60 years old plus holding hands walking together being together and it’s so beautiful it’s so rare to find and that’s why I say it is the biggest Flex to marry someone your first marriage is supposed to be beautiful and to stay and be committed to them I really I really think the overexposure of gender roles and how people are supposed to be has really messed with our our perspective on relationships we really think that I don’t know I don’t know what we think I just think that young people we think we’re better than relationships we really think what we’re better we want to we want to provide for ourselves we want our own apartment we want our own career we want our own this you don’t build a family by yourself you don’t build a Life by yourself you don’t and you also don’t manipulate people to create a life for yourself there’s a lot of women in today’s society that kind of just settle for men they kind of just settle for a certain type of guy because they know they can’t get what they want in this world they know they can’t do what they want to do so a woman will choose an easier guy or an easier way out settling for someone that’s not love that’s not love a woman just wanting to be in a relationship to make her own life easier is not love and that’s where I say your first marriage should be your first and only marriage because how can you trust anyone how can you trust anyone who gave up on a relationship you can’t you can’t because they had their chance everyone has a chance at love it’s up to you to grow internally cu no one’s perfect we all have trauma there’s no such thing as a person growing up in this world already knowing exactly what they want there’s no such thing so when two people come together they figure it out that’s the beauty of Life figuring out life together and it’s a really it’s a really messed up world it’s a very cruel lonely world we’re in I wouldn’t wish I wouldn’t wish anyone to be alone I wouldn’t wish for anyone to go through this life all alone because the biggest Flex is to be with someone to be with someone that you know is there for you and I don’t want to I don’t want to spread false hope I don’t want to spread negativity on people that have been through divorces everyone goes through lessons right everyone goes through their own situations but it’s about learning learning from them and as a society we need to learn that social media is messing with our perspectives on relationships we should all be able to sacrifice and grow together because the world would be a better place the world would be a peaceful place if we chose to be in relationships seriously …