Love is confusing even though it doesn’t have to be. the stuff we consume, it makes us believe we are missing out on something.
foreign [Music] [Music] [Music] foreign [Music] [Music] I usually never think about it but lately I’ve been kind of curious with relationships and you know like what if I gave dating a chance and meeting someone new and seeing where it could go and everything just starts to hit me like Damn you know I’m not getting any younger right and or I do I want to date for the fact that I might miss out on something or and it’s just kind of weird because I always told myself if you crave for a relationship you’re probably not ready for something but if you don’t mind when it comes and you enjoy your alone time that’s when you’re ready and you know let’s be real here none of us are really ready and a lot of us are probably still learning to be comfortable with ourselves are crying out loud and I think meeting people in general is so beneficial for our lives and we know what we like and what we don’t like and of course I do think you know social media allowed us to become more of a cynic maybe and you know we assume the worst in people because of how much negative stuff is shown on you know the internet and you know in reality there’s also a lot of good people out there too and the more horrible things we experience through our eyes and the more we start to apply that to any sort of person which sucks because like you know we can’t trust anyone that easily anymore and it’s just one thing though that I preach when it comes to relationships in general I’ll never know when I’m 100 ready because I think that’s the whole point you know not believing that it’s going to work out only for me but more so the connection so much I have with this person right and to the point where I don’t really think too much about the worst things that can happen [Music] [Music] [Music] I would say like two to three years ago I definitely would read a lot more like self-help books and also like listen to a bunch of podcasts that generally did help a little bit but I don’t think it’s that necessary to listen to it in my opinion I think it makes you think more when you listen to like these advised podcasts and all that and honestly that’s probably mainly why I don’t want to start a podcast or anything like that maybe because I don’t want to tell people or give advice or say something in a way that makes you feel like I’m encouraging you to do the things that I do for myself and I think we all can teach each other something it’s not just me I’m not this like super Guru or anything like that I don’t assume that at all but anyways I was scrolling through my feed and I saw this like paragraph and I don’t know where the book is from but I do know the account it’s called pending growth on Tick Tock and I thought I’d just read this to you guys because it’s pretty good and I feel like this sums up a lot you know it’d really be hitting but let me let me tell you okay in a world that seeks connection we oddly avoid eye contact and we time our text responses in order to protect ourselves from seeming too eager too interested and we hold their feelings back because we don’t want to seem overly emotional or unreasonable and we silence our instincts and at the end of the day instead of feeling good about ourselves we feel alone and we feel misunderstood remember it’s okay to be emotional and to see Calvin to confidently tell someone you enjoy being around that you’re infatuated with them there’s nothing wrong with vulnerability and with being human and for what is what creates depth what’s in our relationships and this is what ultimately unifies us I think everything about that is exactly what I think most of us go through and obviously I know everyone has different experiences but it’s true like this is how it is now it’s the internet and with everything that’s possible now we can go on Instagram and just meet someone like that you know a lot of times the people we are most attracted to is a mystery and we don’t know much about them we just create this Vision or idea in our head that they’re this person we’d help they are and you know but being able to do that so many times you like it just makes you feel even more lonely right that’s what I would assume and I got nothing against social media and the connections it offers and everything has its pros and cons to it and I still think it’s useful to meet people and networking you get the gist and we take all this stuff for granted and we allow things to be temporary because we think we need a relationship since we consume so much romance ideas and opinions that just confuse us well destroying our own judgment and if there’s one thing I could tell my younger self like 18 or 19 year old self are you blinded by the conversations and the idea of winning them over and making them think you deserve them or are you truly trying to listen and being present and building an emotional connection with someone while allowing things to just be natural and it’s Rarities days and it’s hard to trust anyone but with or without social media we have to understand ourselves our boundaries and what is really important to us in this moment of time everything just goes by so fast and I do believe we all deserve the romance that comes by us and it’s our choice to act on it and I’m sure you probably created multiple storylines in your head and observing the person you liked for the longest and that’s why we have to ask ourselves who knows it’ll work out the way we’ll imagine but which story would you prefer bringing to life [Music] …