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our relationships must manifest the laws and the lifestyle of our kingdom in the kingdom of God there’s no divorce if you are going to have a success relationship in the kingdom of God the most important thing you need is not love write this down love does not keep marriage together stop letting people fool you with love whatever they mean by that don’t marry a person because of love are you shocked yet everybody in this room who’s been divorced will tell you they began their relationship with what they call love but the love didn’t hold out so love doesn’t keep it together 95 of all the people that have counsel in my office for the last 30 years with marital problems with the paper in their hand ready to sign it to get a divorce all of them said I still love him but we can’t live together I still love her but I can’t stand her we are confused the two ways don’t go together I love you but don’t wanna live with you what we’re saying is my feelings toward this person is intact but my ability to be in the same room is wanting I don’t have the skills to live in the same room so don’t ever get married because of love I know that sounds strange but that’s your problem life is complicated if you abuse the appetite of your stomach and you keep eating things that are not good for your body or eat too much of anything then you literally kick in destruction in your body if you abuse and mismanage the appetite of sex you walk around with destruction you have mental memories you wish you could forget psychological problems with 10 people you slept with now you are trying to get rid of their memories or maybe even contracted some disease maybe you are caught up in pornography and and now you try to get married and you want your spouse to do the same things you saw in those pictures you are destroying your marriage it’s destructive and so it says if your God is your appetite then destruction is your destiny and their glory is their shame their mind is what on Earthly things worldly systems here’s what the kingdom says you should get married on found in Proverbs chapter 24 verse 3 it says by wisdom a house is built and through what understanding it is established and through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasure now that’s an idiom again in Hebrew it means it’s a nice place to be all the time every room feels like a beautiful place that is lovely you just want to stay home a lot of people who married can’t wait to leave home and going home is a stressful experience the next verse says what a wise man has great power and a man of knowledge increases strength when you have wisdom you’ve got the word power means ability to handle things you can live together effectively if you got what wisdom and then if you have knowledge it says you handle your house with strength you’re not afraid you’re not weak know what to do when problems arise I Want to Break these three words down for you very quickly number one you begin first of all with knowledge knowledge is information if you’re going to have a success relationship with anybody I’m not talking with just married people anybody you need to get knowledge you need information sometimes we encourage you to go buy books and we say goodbye this set of CDs and people think we’re trying to make money but you see those books are 45 years of my life of research and study and living with my wife for 31 years and it costs you 20 bucks twenty dollars for 40 years in my life that’s cheap and it could save your life if you read it but you walk right past the bookstore as if you know everything and you got stress in your marriage you don’t need prayer you need information people coming all the time saying no I’m having problems with my relationship my wife my husband got a problem can you pray for me I’m sitting there going no I want to give you five books to read so bad but I know you are lazy you know what we want God to do work Magic prayer does not cancel ignorance no matter how much I pray for you it doesn’t fix your marriage you need skills you need knowledge you need principles you need to understand human nature these things got to be learned the average man in this room knows nothing about women guaranteed I’m still trying to figure out my wife on his 31 years so you gotta learn you got to study and I’m telling you 95 percent of women in this room know nothing about a man nothing I’m telling you I was talking to a lady the other day and I’m singing she doesn’t understand her husband you got to get knowledge the next time someone tell you they love you ask them how much you know how many books you read to prepare to talk to me because I’m in danger if you are ignorant now here’s the problem he’s ignorant you ignorant about you got married that’s a foolish relationship and then we say what forever we commit forever forever you can last until after the honeymoon night then they’re gonna be some fighting the second one is what understanding understanding is comprehension that means you comprehend the information this is why I teach so much to you I don’t want you just to hear me I want you to understand the word of God because you cannot do number three if you don’t know number two and number three is wisdom wisdom is application you cannot apply what you do not understand and you cannot understand what you do not know stop trying to make the Holy Ghost your spouse Jesus said the holy spirit will guide you into all truth and he will bring to your remembrance the things you learned now this is a problem I thought the Holy Spirit used to tell me things I thought he would give me information that’s not what Jesus said he said he will live in you and he will bring to your remembrance would you learn so he’s down and they’re looking for stuff to try and solve your problem you can’t find them I can’t find no information but you know I hear you I got the problem about to get a divorce listen look I’m trying to help you but I can’t find nothing cause you didn’t put nothing in here you cannot apply what you do not understand and you cannot understand what you do not what no being old doesn’t mean you are wise being all means you owe that’s all there’s some old dumb people in other words age doesn’t mean wisdom that is found in job the young man who was the one that really got through the job was the young one who said I kept quiet because I thought age should speak he said but then when I heard the foolishness of the Aged ones I decided to speak and his wisdom was the one that job listened to not because somebody is 42 years old and wink at you doesn’t mean they are candidate for marriage I’m telling you let me tell you what all people are they are full of regrets they call regrets wisdom no regret it an experience you wish you never had we need to be careful there’s no substitute for knowledge a lot of people in my experience over the years in relationships God are divorced not because they didn’t know I taught them for years but they didn’t apply they didn’t listen they didn’t use the information properly that’s called foolish a smoking doctor is a fool so we need to apply truth and then write this point down very important truth is literally defined as original information now this is very important because sometimes truth becomes very nebulous we don’t understand you know when Christ says I am the way the truth and the life what he meant was I am the way to the original information that gives you life truth is always from the source anything other than the source is an opinion think about it that’s how cookbooks are later you get the photograph on the right and the recipe on the left we don’t never look at the left we just look at the picture we love the picture the problem is we do the same thing with our relationships every woman in this room has in her head the perfect marriage picture they meet this guy he’s six feet two driving a fantastic BMW he’s walking with a three-piece suit with a briefcase he’s making six hundred thousand dollars a year got a house by the beach down old west and he is sharp and he is proposing to you and you said yes and both of you got married 500 people in attendance every The Limousines you got this picture don’t you come on say Amen don’t lie to me and you got this image it’s photograph in your mind of you going to that church marching I’m getting married kissing throwing the rice going on honeymoon coming back and getting back to that house having three little kids walking around watering the garden together he’s he’s feeding and you’re working and the kids are playing around you and you take your evening walks by the beach every evening go jogging in the morning go to work and you have this Photograph before you go to bed he kisses you and prays for you that’s the cake you’re looking at what you don’t look at is the other page the picture is the result of a process don’t you dare walk down an aisle believe in the picture is waiting for you up at that aisle that could be a nightmare in a suit that picture in that cookbook is a result of a long process write this down the picture is a promise when you open a cookbook and you look at the picture the author is promising you something he’s saying I promise you this picture if you follow the page you don’t like there are men in this room who got a picture of the perfect wife every morning she wakes up she looks like Queen Esther he never sees her in rollers he don’t want to see it in no duster dragging no slippers he oversees a perfect he pitches a woman who’s waiting at the door when he comes home with the already ready he sees her standing there with a modeling look like hi baby welcome home hi there he has this picture of this woman who takes off his shoes from a Long Day’s Work and hands in the newspaper and say baby go ahead and read while I just heat the food up he had this photograph in his mind of this woman who just kisses him on the forehead and says you’re such a good man thank you for being such a good worker for my kids pitch of this woman who is always ready for sex all the time and our problem is we get married to people and we demand the picture and this person has no idea how to produce that picture for you here’s why the key to the cake is two things the ingredients and the recipe the recipe is how things should happen in sequence the ingredients are the components that make up the recipe all of them are necessary to produce the product that photograph in your hand is complicated I heard a guy say one time he said marriage is wonderful it’s the living together that is hell and that’s what it means the photograph is beautiful but the process is not easy now so if you want to have the result you have to follow the recipe and have the right ingredients I remember one time I was baking and the cake called for a couple of things I didn’t have when the cake came out it was hard as rock it never Rose I became angry at the oven I became angry Ang the fire angry at the kitchen angry at the pond it was in angry at the cake that’s what we do we become angry at the result we’re getting but not taking responsibility for what we failed to put in there was nothing wrong with that recipe I decided to put in what I so we keep doing relationships so relationships are just like cakes they are only as good as the ingredients write this down if you want the cake you must follow the recipe and you must use the ingredients specified by the recipe if your cake is salty don’t blame the cake some put salt in themselves if your relationship being working out don’t blame your spouse there’s something you ain’t putting in either and you see sometimes we marry folks who don’t know nothing about cakes they don’t know what they doing they just like you it is better to be happy alone than to be depressed in a prison called the relationship the cake is a result of putting different ingredients together in one place that’s the cake so the cake is nothing more than the ingredients the heat Lord have mercy is the world you live [Applause] you live in other words when the life hits you you ain’t supposed to collapse and fall apart the pressure supposed to make you into a beautiful result that’s the heat of life but if you don’t have the right ingredients the heat will turn you into a dumb bread nobody wants to eat you nobody wants to learn from you nobody want to follow you they can’t even enjoy you because you are not tasteful your rooms are not wonderful treasure so when you meet somebody and they claim they have an interest study what kind of ingredient they are and I may take you two years to figure out at least 10 percent because everybody is live and they like you let me say it again when people like you they lie that’s why when you find someone which isn’t you put them on trial I don’t trust you yet I can put you on trial now when somebody’s on trial they make the worst witness anybody who was on trial should not be the witness because they’re going to defend themselves I my feet I never stink my breath is always sweet you can think they’re gonna lie so what do you do you bring other Witnesses who know them to testify on their behalf bring their mother talk to the mother talk to the father talk to the sister who slept with her for 20 years in the house talk to the brother who knows him very well that’s who you talk to you don’t talk to the person our problem if you keep talking to the person I love you I love you too you there yeah I still there it’s two o’clock I know but I don’t hang up yet this is not called this is manipulation please make a note of this very important the most important relationship in life is not interpersonal relationship but it’s what intra personal relationship it’s more important for you to know yourself than to know other people you don’t need another person in your life yet you need you in your life first the average person don’t know who they are themselves so you need to really develop a relationship with the most important person in your life and it’s you a lot of people like to be with people because they don’t want to be with themselves if you are the worst company to you why should you want me to be with you let me say it again if you don’t like you why you want me to like you if you can’t stand being with you why do you want me to be with you forever this is why a person who is a good person to marry is somebody who ain’t interested this is why I tell people if someone say to you I need you run run as fast as you can they about to become a parasite we walk around you’re not coming I need you that’s a serious thing can you imagine telling someone that you telling them that they control you you don’t want no one around you like a leech sucking your life over you sucking on you sucking everything out of you you want somebody you could give life to you share and this is why we got so much stress in our relationships people walk around because they don’t like themselves so they like to be with you all the time will you go in will you go in again you know what time it is you gain again where you’re going you don’t gotta wait every night where you going if you enjoy yourself by yourself take yourself for lunch and tell them you want to table with one chair what makes you attractive is the fact that you are lovable and your love is shown by your love for yourself know yourself get to fall in love with yourself then I believe I could stay with you let me give another thought the most important question you should desire to know is yourself we try to spend time getting to know people and we never know who we are know your idiosyncrasies know your weaknesses know your strength know your purpose know your your mission in life know your dreams know your vision know what your assignment is in life know yourself because knowledge of self will determine how you choose relationships if I know where I want to go in life I know who I want to be with if I know what my vision is I know who can’t help me get there so knowing yourself regulates who you allow into your life at different levels you know there’s some folks who will come in your life and kill your dream so we pick up everybody choose your relationships based on your destination not everybody who Smiles at you and say they love you is a blessing and some of you have experienced this I I know it’s it’s rough to deal with these kind of subjects but you know some you’ve been through divorce you’re looking back and you go man oh boy it was too late when I discovered this person didn’t have what I have as far as passion and dreams they didn’t have the same passion for life but you know God is a good god he’s a god of Second Chances you can start again after you get knowledge of course coming to bfm and then you do it right and believe me the more knowledge you get the more difficult it is to find somebody let me say it slow the more knowledge you get the more difficult it is to find somebody because you got sense now some of y’all are saying pastor Mars I can’t find no one to marry I don’t blame you I know it’s tough and some folks have given in and they regret it when you lower your standard you can never lift it up again that’s tough because sometimes you begin to get desperate and then you stop thinking well well you know I need to do something fast and believe me fast is right fast food is always cheap self-knowledge is the key to all relationships all of them not just marriage when you know yourself you also know who you should associate with even as Associates you need to know who you’re supposed to be with who will be a contribution to your life I can’t keep coming with every Pastor some of them can’t dream what I’m dreaming and think like I think so I can’t keep company with them maybe we are acquainted and we you know we we talk but as far as friends and there are some people who I would never be around for more than five minutes they’re too negative I’m a positive man I got Big Dreams for God I know where I’m going in life and I got time to waste time with you trying to abort my dream so I choose my friends based on my destiny I know myself so I choose my relationship based on who I know I am and what I want to achieve in life you should never just hang out you gotta choose where you want to go first then and choose those associations that can get you there here’s a verse that we probably misunderstand Matthew chapter 22 the key to self-love is loving God with your soul your mind your strength why when you study God investigate God get to know God’s quality his nature all of his characteristic guess what you discover yourself because you are also in God’s image so you begin to find out who you are when you study God and you fall in love with yourself because the goodness you see in God you see in yourself that’s why I love myself so much it’s too late no matter what you think about me I love me okay get over it I’m not posting I love me your opinions doesn’t touch my love for me because I am made in God’s image and I’m just like my father I have his nature his qualities his characteristics I have his worth I am just like my father God I know who I am you can never touch the value I have on my life now why is that important he says because I can only love you to this same degree I love me the principle here is this it is more important to love you than to love me and that’s your problem don’t just learn truth you have to apply it and if you’re going to be successful in life you must apply the truth [Music] foreign foreign …