Two girls asked me out on dates at virtually the same time. I was hoping that I’d have more feelings towards one than the other after serious contemplation and honesty with myself. Of course I have the balls and respect to let one down as kindly as possible, but… I think I’m falling for both of them. One seems slightly more dangerous than the other, but I could trust her. I really don’t want to hurt anyone, but at the same time, I can’t deny that I have real feelings for both and it’s equal. I’ve been on the receiving end of this dilemma before and while I accept that people can be in love with more than one person simultaneously, I hated being on the receiving end, and tbh, I hate being on this side of the situation. I am a monogamist and this feels wrong, although it’s kind of early days yet. I need to make my decisions before any hearts become breakable. Is there anyone who has been in the same situation? Any successes? Any failures? I just want to conduct myself like a gentleman and respect these two wonderful women. I’ve never been in this position before and it might sound glamorous to a younger lad, but I’m 30-odd with a daughter, and this sucks. I need to do something urgently to resolve this with the best possible outcome for all concerned. Please help. Judge all you like, but please help too lol