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what kind of text should you be sending a woman that you’re talking to if you ever felt like when you’re with a woman it’s easy to attract her it’s easy to move things forward but then when you’re away from her that attraction just continues to fizzle out almost like there’s a hump that you can’t figure out how to get over where a girl really falls for you and you can move things forward with her one thing that’s crystal clear though is that a larger and larger majority of your relationships now take place online or over text which is why it’s critically important to be able to continue building attraction continue strengthening the bond between you and a woman with every message you send her so what kind of texts accomplish this i’m going to give you six examples of how to make her fall for you every time she reads one of your messages hi i’m bobby rio and i don’t think i need to stress to you how important texting is nowadays if you want to move a relationship forward you absolutely must know how to do it over text because no matter how well you get along with a woman in person if you’re texting her and your texts aren’t building on that attraction that she had felt for you if you’re text on strengthening that bond pretty soon she’s gonna pull away and you will lose her so quick disclaimer everything that i know about texting i learned from my friend rob judge who’s the best i’ve ever seen at being able to convey an attractive personality convey attractive traits over text and that’s what this video is all about it’s about expressing an attractive personality every time you text a girl because that’s what she falls in love with is your personality because most guys are sending bland boring texts where if she didn’t see the name she’d have no idea who sent them they’re lacking personality so first let’s talk about the attractive traits the attractive personality traits that you want to display over text and then i’m going to give you specific examples of text messages that accomplish this so the main traits that you want to display with your texts are you want to display playfulness cool vulnerability leading the vibe social proof and flirtatiousness so let’s take a look at what i mean and how to infuse these traits into your messages so let’s start with some examples okay so let’s start with this idea of personality you want to always make sure that every text you send infuses even a tiny bit of personality into it so that it is signaturely yours what do i mean by that i mean you don’t want her to be able to look at a text and not know who it was from because it’s so generic so imagine the typical nice guy the typical guy who meets a woman he’s gonna send something like it was nice meeting you last night here’s an example of how you can infuse your personality into a text for lack of a more shakespearean first text just wanted to say it’s rob and joy enjoyed meeting you last night so one little line for lack of a shakespearean first text adds personality to it now a couple things first off it’s light it’s sort of funny but it’s not forced or try hard sort of way right a lot of guys go overboard and they try to come up with this hugely entertaining or inside joke sort of text and that does convey personality but it conveys a try hard personality so you don’t want to overdo it and like i said just one little line like for lack of a more shakespearean first text infuses a bit of personality into it which is much better than the typical it was nice meeting you last night so the next example of an attractive trait is playfulness playfulness is probably one of the most important traits that you can have with a woman because it allows you to move things forward it allows her to have fun with you it allows her to see a future with you the good news is that playfulness is an attractive quality that is pretty easy to convey over text it’s one of the easier ones to convey over text so a lot of guys are gonna send again zero personality texts something like hey how’s your day going there’s zero personality in that text and zero attractive traits in that text compare that to this text just saw an old man on a scooter with knee pads checking out babe made my morning see if you’re reaching out with a woman just to stay in touch and that’s what a lot of guys do is they just want to stay in touch so they said hey how’s your day going but if you’re just reaching out to her offer her something offer her something playful something that’ll make her smile so that she associates sort of a a better feeling than you than just how’s your day going which is like i don’t know fine i guess right like what is she going to write to that so with this text two things right there’s two parts the first is this a description of something funny and we can all find that right and that on its own doesn’t convey personality but it still puts a smile on her face just saw an old man with knee pads checking out babe um now a couple things right that makes it his personality one is checking out babe it’s kind of a funny way to say that and then um the second part is made my morning made my morning is what really expresses personality in this text that you’re playful that you don’t take things too seriously right that’s something that she can now associate with you like this kind of fun playful guy based on this text compared to how’s your day going so the next attractive trait that you can display over text is cool vulnerability cool vulnerability is when you allow yourself to be a little bit real with a girl but not in a super vulnerable way that makes things awkward so um we all hear you should be vulnerable vulnerable where you go overboard and you tell her how your last girlfriend cheated on you and your dad didn’t love you and all that sort of stuff that is not cool vulnerability that’s stuff that you should save for your therapist cool vulnerability is where you show that you don’t take yourself too seriously that you’re willing to laugh at yourself so examples of cool vulnerability might be admitting that you like cheesy music telling a story about how you dropped the winning fly ball in the little league world series and like you never got over it like it’s where you express a little bit of vulnerability but in a funny kind of cool way so the text that i’m going to show you is an example of adding cool vulnerability into a text where you’re apologizing because we’ve all been in this situation where we were hanging out with a woman and maybe we drank too much maybe we did something stupid and we have this decision to make do we do we apologize or do we ignore it and a lot of guys overly apologize i’m so sorry i did that last night and that kind of makes things weird too but if you ignore it um and she really was offended by what you did that can also backfire so this this text is an example of cool vulnerability drunk me was misbehaving last night my apologies for the poor behavior sober me gave him a stern lecture this morning and it won’t happen again so what woman is not going to laugh at that text but at the same time you’re admitting that you got drunk you acted a little stupid you’re being a little vulnerable about it but in a cool way again cool vulnerability shows a woman you don’t take yourself too seriously things won’t get weird with you and it is something that is attractive in a man so the next attractive trait you can express over text is leading the vibe so being the leader moving things forward this is an attractive trait in a man so i want to give you an example of how to mix your personality into a text that is leading the vibe so this text says cancel your plans tonight i’m preparing you a culinary experience that that will rock your face off so a couple things right culinary experience kind of a weird way of phrasing it which in itself expresses a little personality it could sound corny except when you add that will rock your face off it makes it more playful so at the same time you’re leading the vibe because you’re telling her cancel your plans tonight right you’re going to do what i suggest we’re going to do what i want to do cancel your plans i’m doing this with you that’s leading the vibe but you’re infusing personality into it with using phrases like instead of saying i’m going to cook for you i’m going to prepare you a culinary experience instead of saying that you’re gonna love that will rock your face off it is a very distinct personality and again all the texts that i’m giving you examples of express personality it may not be your personality so you need to figure out okay how am i going to fit my personality into this right i might not say things like culinary experience or rock your face off but what do i say and how can i infuse my personality into it so the next text is expressing flirtatiousness so obviously when it comes to men and women flirtatiousness is what really drives intimacy forward it what’s what lets you know that you’re interested in each other that’s there’s something romantic something uh flirty going on so being able to introduce that into text is is is key the issue that most guys run into is that they either do it too obviously like oh i had a really good time last night i can’t wait to see you or they don’t do it at all because they don’t know how to do it so i want to give you an example of how to do it in a way that is push pull flirting is largely push pull which means you pull her puller towards you and then you push her away so this example is it’s stormy wish you were here to cuddle under a fluffy blanket and watch a rambo movie again very much personality infused into it um but it’s flirty i wish you were here to cuddle under a fluffy blanket but then that’s pulling her towards you but then watch a rambo movie sort of releases a little bit of the tension right because if you just wrote it stormy wish you were here to cuddle under a fluffy blanket the word fluffy makes it kind of you know kind of playful um but it is a little serious right i wish you were here she could go oh but then when you say to watch a rambo movie it kind of it kind of diffuses some of the tension which which is what flirting really is right it’s tension release tension release and watch a rambo movie releases that tension at the same time it shows that you have this personality she can read that and associate it with you it’s not something she’s gonna get from anybody else right she might get a wish you were here text but she’s not going to get it stormy wish you were here to cuddle under a fluffy blanket and watch a rambo movie text okay so the next attractive trait that you can display over text is social proof a couple things with this one is that you have to be careful with this because social proof can easily come across as bragging if you were to send a woman a text hey i’m at the machine gun kelly concert tonight it’s so good that comes across as bragging right it may it may give you some social proof like you do fun stuff or whatever but it it comes across as try hard so you always want to do social proof in a way that is a little bit more under the radar so here’s uh two examples one is i need a quick song recommendation you have good musical taste give me a wreck that’ll make me look cool so the reason that that’s sort of social proof is that it shows that you’re out that you’re having fun you’re with people right um but it also at the same time it does a few other things right uh it adds some so uh some cool vulnerability right give me a recommendation that’ll make me look cool so that’s a little like you don’t take yourself too seriously you’re also complimenting her a little bit with you have good musical taste which works well it’s hard to directly convey to a woman that you’re out with friends or you’re out with a woman so you have to do it through subtext and an easy or engaging way to do that like i said is to ask her for something right a musical recommendation here’s another example of how you can ask her for something while conveying that you’re out being social so help settle a bet does it count when you say i love you when you’re drunk it seems all women give the same answer but no pressure so if you wanted to imply that you’re out with some women right this is actually a good text if you’re trying to get out of the friend zone or something and you want to make a female friend jealous or an ex or something because you’re saying does it help when you settle a bet which is an innocent thing but you’re implying by saying it seems all women give the same answer no pressure it it implies that you’re having this conversation with other women and without you saying it right you’re not saying like i just asked a girl and she said this what do you think but the way you phrased it implies that you’re out you’re being social most likely having a conversation with a group of women so these traits right that you want to express as part of your personality playfulness cool vulnerability leading the vibe flirtatiousness social proof every message you send you want to think does it convey any of this am i conveying any playfulness in this am i playing conveying any that you don’t have to have every one of these in every text but you want to think do i have a little bit of of one of them am i expressing some element of my personality that if she opens this message and my name isn’t there she can probably guess that i was the one who sent it that’s what you want to get in a habit of doing this is all part of a new style of communication that you really have to master because as i mentioned in the beginning of this video even if you meet a woman in the real world most of your conversations with her take place online over text it could be you know instagram comments and stories it could be texting it could be chatting on whatsapp or instant messenger that’s where the majority of the conversations take place now i mentioned my friend rob who a lot of these texts were inspired by him and a lot of the advice that i’ve personally learned over the years was learned through him he has a video that i recommend you check out called end of men.com www.endofmen.com because he really drills this home that being attractive in right now right in this new culture that we’re in requires being digitally attractive and it’s a weird concept but you have to be able to to convey this attractive personality not just in person but over messages on dating profiles on facebook profiles because women are using all of this now to get a feel for who you are as a person and as he talks about in the video the guys that aren’t able to do this really are getting left behind so you want to check out that video endofmen.com where rob really walks you through this idea and gives you a whole bunch of tips on how to convey this attractive communication style nowadays if you enjoyed this video hit 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