dating women over 50
all right what’s up my brother so in this video we’ve got a request to cover the ultimate guide for dating in your 50s I suppose is the best way to sum it up this comes from Mark he says it’s a nightmare menopausal 40 to 50 year olds loads of baggage and 30s and 40s and entitled 20 year old rats I guess is probably the best way to summarize that he says all ranges equal a nightmare well I’ve got to go from right now so thankfully I’m not dealing with this BS and that frees up a lot of my time to do work and Chase Excellence but I get it a lot of guys have complained about this sort of concept and I’ve talked to a lot of dudes in their 50s that have dealt with some serious struggles getting back into the dating Marketplace whether you’ve been married and divorced or whatever happens to be happening in your life at that time and I think it’s important to understand that you know the dating games change for a lot of people especially those guys that have been married for a long time so listen up youngsters out there because this is what you’re going to be in for the guys in the 50s that are watching this I’ve got some answers for you and ladies that are watching this well you might learn a few lessons as I kind of run through some of the issues that exist and what I think guys should do about it let’s start with the oldest range down to the youngest range that he was contemplating dating because I think this is a range most guys in their 50s will look at obviously I mean the better shape that you’re in the more money you have the more interesting and captivating you are the more options you’re obviously going to have so those dating ranges open up a lot for guys for seasoned men let’s say with a little bit of salt and pepper in their hair or their beard as far as options to date it can go as young as in the 20s or you know some of these guys prefer more seasoned women into their 50s but the first complaint he’s got the menopausal women in their 40s and 50s look I’m not personally attracted to older women so I haven’t dated in that range much if I’m being honest there was a few that were in real good shape when I was single that I dated and what he’s talking about is true there’s all kinds of issues that exist and a lot of the times even though we mentioned it in the 30s and 40s was talking about baggage I think one of the things that exists as women get older in general is they tend to hold on to baggage a little bit more than what I’ve seen guys guys do as well don’t get me wrong but women when it comes to you know the amount out if he hurt me he abused me he was a bad relationship he took advantage of me he insert whatever issue and it’s like every he did something to me it was some guy that they might have dated for a short period of time long period of time or even weren’t a long-term relationship with for a few years every one of those guys you can write whatever issue happened on a brick with a sharpie and put it in a burlap bag and throw it over her shoulder because she carries that around like it’s a badge of honor and for being honest it really isn’t it’s nothing to be proud about it’s nothing to brag about it’s nothing that nobody even sees because it’s an invisible burlap brag full of your baggage and it’s heavy and it weighs the woman down and it weighs down the relationship and it makes it hard for the guy to have a pleasant experience dating her because she’s often guarded oh because so and so did this to me that I’m going to assume that either all men are like that or you might potentially do that to me as well or blah blah blah and it’s not a basket case there’s a lot of mental cases out there and again I don’t see people doing the work on that and sort of like moving through it and trying to understand why I think guys are more logical in a sense where if something goes sideways they look for logical reasons to sort of get some answers as to why that happened and they kind of work through it sort of stuff I don’t see that happen as much as with the lady so I think the older the ladies get and when you’re talking about the 40s 50s yeah you’re dealing with menopausal women there’s a reality that comes with that you know with men their testosterone levels drop about one percent per year from the ages 39 and you can pretty much fix that with testosterone replacement therapy you know from a doctor or from a clinic the hormone replacement therapy clinics they work very well to solve those sorts of problems there’s clinics that deal with women as well but you can’t balance a woman’s hormones the same way that you can with men because when women go through menopause the eggs stop drop and you can’t make those happening and it’s not like you can inject that or that happens what they do is they give them a different cocktail a different mixture of estrogen testosterone progesterone sometimes dhas a whole bunch of different things they give them to try to fix that the moods a hot flash cold flash so it’s a serious set of issues that you’re going to deal with you probably deal with less brattiness and entitledness although that’s not always true with older women but they can be a little easier to deal with I think by the time they hit their 40s they generally understand that their sexual market value isn’t as high as a gal in her 20s although again it’s not always true there’s a lot of delusional women out there to think that they deserve uh you know a Brad Pitt with loads of bank and a couple of yachts and a plane and lots of vacation homes and all they bring to the table is a bunch of debt and two or three kids probably from two or three different fathers in tow so there’s that to contemplate one of the best things I think that you can do guys especially if in your 50s and you’re looking at you know getting out of dating and and trying to make your experience a little bit better anyway is definitely read my book if you haven’t already if you’re not a reader it’s available on Audible if you don’t listen to stuff like that you can at least just download the chapter on the 20 red flags from my book which is pinned Below in the top comment you just have to opt in my email list and you can read that for free vetting for red flags I think is really important and if you do that you’re gonna avoid or miss a lot of the potential train wrecks that’ll come your way especially if you’re in your 50s and you’re looking to you know have a pleasant easy and easy lucrative and fun life you know if you’re well without any drama or complicated issues the other thing too is we kind of move down the range into the 30s and 40s you’re going to get a lot of women with young children in tow it’s pretty common for women to wait later in life now before they start having kids usually what ends up happening if they haven’t been married is they start reaching this Epiphany phase where they realize oh boy all my girlfriends are having kids all my siblings are having kids where are my kids I need to find a guy sometimes they’ll resort to Desperate Measures sperm banks sometimes I’ve seen screenshots of them going online and basically saying I like cream pies just go because I’m looking to have kids and I want to be a single mother by choice so there’s any number of areas in that spectrum that they can land on but bottom line is you’re going to be dealing with a lot of gals out there with some small kids in tow think the worst thing you guys can do and I dedicated an entire chapter in my book The unplugged Alpha again available on Amazon to why guys should avoid dating single moms they are out there there’s a lot of them some are beautiful you know we’ve all dated them but they bring a certain level of complexity into your life that women without kids don’t bring so one of the strongest pieces of advice that I really encourage you guys to follow and not deviate from is if you want to get into a long-term relationship with a gal fine do it but avoid women with small children in tow you will force yourself in a position where you become a cuckold where you’re going to have to raise another man’s seed provide for them you’re going to be expected to have all of the responsibility of a parent meaning pay for vacations pay for Christmas gifts for birthday parties maybe even accommodation some guys make the ultimate mistake of moving them into their homes but you’ll have no authority over parenting them and at some point you you’re going to hear some like f you you’re not my father I don’t need to listen to you so contemplate that big fat red pill when it comes to dating single mommies then he goes down to the gals in their 20s entitlement and well look you know this is the generation that’s grown up essentially on social media and screens you know there’s a lot of women in their 20s who are absolutely stunning beautiful and gorgeous but they bring a certain level of entitlement and at the same time if you’re a guy in your 50s and you’re dating a chick in your 20s a lot of them are not that mature and they’re generally going to be looking at you as an ATM you’re going to be their pocketbook you’re going to be the sugar daddy you’re gonna pay for their generally is how they treat you so you’ll be the beta box you’re gonna Fork over the money to pay for and they’ll probably have some Alpha dude on the side who’s about the same age as her you know that can do things that you can’t do anymore because you’re in your 50s and you’ve got to rely on other things to make sure things are working properly and he’s just tickety-boo so there’s there’s that issue that’s going to come up and you don’t want to lead with your wallet you don’t want to get it to any kind of long-term relationship with a gal where it’s all about well I’ve got money so I’m going to take care of everything because she’s never really going to have genuine burning desire for her she’s never going to genuinely want to be with you enthusiastically in the way that she hooks up with the guy in the nightclub in the bathroom or the back of his car a few hours after meeting him maybe even 20 minutes you know it happens so my advice to guys after we’ve kind of gone through all those potential red zones is yes they exist understand what they are and again if you really want to dive down the rabbit hole of what they are and how they exist and how to spot them read the damn book okay I know I know it’s a about a five or six hour read or it’s a five or six hour lesson but just go through it it gets through all the details this all essentially boils down to one thing and one thing only why are you at a stage in your life where you are still relying on women for love intimacy companionship a lot of the guys are all about friendship you know I want I’m looking for my best friend sort of thing you’re plugged into the Matrix guys you’re plugged into lies you’re plugged into society’s comforting BS that you’ve been sold your entire life and how’s that been working out for you if you’re in your 50s and you’re watching this and you’re like okay yeah not in your head how’s that working out for you how has believing that there’s a soul mate out there that you need to find that gal to complete you you complete me Jerry Maguire right sure maybe they exist maybe there is a few of them out there that don’t bring the drama that don’t bring the headaches that don’t bring the children in tow that don’t bring like the baggage and all that sort of stuff it’s rare man the older women get the more baggage they have the chances are that they’re going to have kids if they’re in their 30s maybe early 40s they could be divorced have a whole bunch of them you don’t know right the point that I’m making here is why aren’t you prioritizing that friendship and companionship part of the equation that you’re seeking with male friends why don’t you have a group of guys that you can rely on to do cool fun and have laughs and stuff like that it doesn’t matter where you find that it really doesn’t matter where you connect with that whether it’s on the golf course whether it’s in a fighting Dojo whether it’s in a model building Club where you build the flat planes that you fly whatever it happens to be why can’t you find it there why are you trying to rely on women still to fill that void for you for that companionship for that friendship I mean the love and the intimacy I get it right some guys would argue well you know you can get love from a dog right A dog will love you in an unconditional way that a woman will never love you right the intimacy part is totally separate but a lot of that you can deal with just by connecting with like-minded men I mean I do it on Supercar rallies I’ve always been a car guy I’ve always wanted faster better cars so that’s just been my jam and I found by joining one of Toronto’s largest Supercar clubs and doing rallies and road trips I’ve put probably well over 40 000 kilometers in total than all cars that I’ve done three to six day rallies on I’ve done multiple and I have some of my best friends right now like when we go to different towns or we’ve been to Chicago bus in New York City Manhattan we’ve been to Lexington Kentucky we’ve been to all these different cities throughout east coast of North America driving Adirondack Mountains and at night time when we get together we have the best laughs the best meals the best dinners you know get up early we rip the roads together we’ve got a radio system we have an anti-fuzz system we have everything dialed in these are my boys right and my girlfriend comes along for the ride sometimes you know she’ll do some of the rallies other she doesn’t because she doesn’t like some of the roads or some of it’s too scary for her that’s fine you know but the connections that I have and that I’m looking for I find amongst those men and I think that’s one of the great mistakes that guys have today is they aren’t relying on other men for friendships companionships and to do cool right because let’s be honest men and women don’t have a lot of the same interests and options my girlfriend’s a great chick she doesn’t bring much baggage she’s in my frame if I ask her something like hey do me a solid I got these new shirts that came in can you iron them for me no problem no pushback no I ain’t your slave none of that stuff it’s very she’s friendly she’s beautiful she cooks she she does all that stuff is she perfect no but the point that it may is I don’t rely on her for the Friendship part of it a lot of guys make a woman their entire world or they’re looking to make a woman their entire world especially in their 50s right and it’s like why what do you like what do you want to do that you haven’t done that you have to do with a woman is basically what I’m asking you okay sometimes be nice to bring her along for the ride right like I like having my gallon she’s good with the the maps and with co-navigation like sometimes it’s great you know to have her along when I’m on the boat for example Which packs a nice lunch or a nice picnic sort of thing for us to eat on the boat she looks great in a bikini you know like they have a place but I think a lot of the big mistakes that guys make is like they’re looking for everything in one chick right and one of the things that I learned a long time ago and I’ve said this before and I’ll repeat it again you can have it all you just can’t have it all at the same time in one person right one chick can’t fulfill all of your hopes dreams desires needs wants and passions and all that sort of stuff it’s basically impossible right a lot of the fun stuff that you guys should be doing a lot of the camaraderie a lot of the you know when you check your boys you know when your Razz them sort of thing right that’s done with other men do it on the golf course do it at the model airplane Club do it on Supercar rise whatever your thing happens to be fishing trips skiing trips whatever your hiking trips cycling trips whatever it happens to be you’re a grown ass man now you’re 50. you should be out there going hey boys we’re going to Italy we’re going to get some road bikes and we’re gonna do top to bottom this summer over five or six weeks find guys like that and don’t ask me where to find them I’m not going to introduce you to those guys specifically but you should join a bike club if that’s your thing like a cyclist club now I have my own men’s community and one of the reasons why I built it was I got tired of getting into men’s groups where it’s like some guys that will help you lose happy life George sort of thing and it’s like okay dork I don’t want to hang out with you and I don’t want to listen to your and you’re probably the kind of guy that’s gonna introduce Havoc into the group right so I created my own men’s Community I call it the one percent and if you’re interested in looking into that it’s Global we’re around the world we’ve got well over 500 members we meet up on a regular basis you can look at the page it’s hidden below and just entrepreneurs and cars.com forward slash community if you’re unplugged if you’re red pill do you know if you will and you’re interested in connecting to other guys top shelf guys that are doing cool I would encourage you to look at that join men’s groups and again it doesn’t have to be mine you like fighting join a dojo you like fishing join some kind of fishing club you like running join the runner’s room whatever floats your boat whatever happens to be your jam that’s one of the things that you should look at we talked about some of the risks in soap sort of recap we talked about some of the risk some of the problems we talked about some of the red flags we talked about some potential Solutions I invite you guys to take a serious look at all of them because it is possible to get into a long-term relationship with a woman and have a good experience and not complicate your life unnecessarily and have her be a compliment to your life and all of those good things I’ve done it it works but you have to guard your inner circle you have to guard your time you have to guard the people that you let in and around you and when you do that and you’re Discerning in your taste with the woman or women if you choose to have multiple girlfriends whatever your choice may be the woman that you invite Into Your Inner Circle if you’re close Inner Circle she better be a compliment to your life the big problem that guys do is they or have is they Overlook red flags they Overlook problematic women they Overlook women that complicate their lives unnecessarily because they’re lonely because they don’t have better options because they don’t have male friends that can hold them accountable and to standards you want to have a better experience in life guys raise your standards don’t date loser women don’t date chaotic women don’t move chaotic loser women into your household and potentially ruin your life or expose yourself to unnecessary risk why if you can take one piece of advice from this that’s it do that anyway I think this pretty much encompasses The Ultimate Guide to dating in your 50s and what guys should be paying attention to and what’s in a lot of your blind spots younger men pay attention to this because you will be running this problem the older you get the more you’re gonna find that women don’t add much benefit to your life because you start to have these experiences and you unplug you may go through divorce you may deal with whatever it is that you happen to deal with will be Discerning anyway check out the top pin comment for a bunch of useful stuff that I’m affiliated with and they recommend including my book my community a bunch of other stuff leave a comment below and let guys know what your experience has been and of course like the video for the algorithm we’ll see you guys in the next one peace out [Music] …